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Holy Eucharist

The Holy Eucharist commonly referred to as The Mass

Worship is central to the life of our parish. We believe that worship connects us with God, each other, and that the Gospel calls us out into our community as agents of change. The shape of our liturgy is meant to be formed and informed with beauty and holiness to reflect the grace and beauty and holiness of God. We seek to create liturgies that reflect God’s radical love and hospitality for all.

WORSHIP SERVICE TIMES

8:00 A.M. Contemplative Service with Holy Eucharist

Our contemplative service is a Rite I service offering longer moments of silence for reflection.

10:15 A.M. Family Service with Holy Eucharist

Our family service can get a little joyfully rambunctious. This service has music supported by our wonderful chancel choir, and the occasional guest musicians. We Live Stream this service to Facebook, and Zoom is available as well.

At St. Jude we believe that we are all created in the image of God, and everyone is deserving of dignity and respect. All are welcome, all are worthy to receive communion.

WHAT TO EXPECT ON SUNDAY’S

Ushers will welcome you at the front door of the parish and they will give you a Sunday service bulletin. The Ushers are a good source for any questions you may have before, or during the service. If you have any special needs, like you are unable to come up to the rail for Communion, but would still like to receive, tell an Usher and they will let the priest know.

Have a seat anywhere you like; people will be happy to share a pew with you. Before the service some organ or piano music will be played. This is a nice time to pray and focus yourself for worship; some folks chat a bit, and that’s okay, too. You may see some people scurrying around up near the altar and the lectern, making last minute preparations before for the service begins. There are visitor cards in the pew rack in front of you. We would love for you to fill one out to let us know a little about you and your visit with us today, and there is a guest book at the back of the church too.

We are happy to have children and youth in church with us, and we don’t mind a little extra noise. We have a puzzles and coloring books at the back of the church for younger children to help them to keep themselves occupied, and so that they can still experience the service too. Sunday School starts at 10:00am and is in the Church School wing of the parish; the children and youth join us in the church at the Peace. If you wish to take your youngsters to Sunday School, the Ushers will be happy to direct you. Your children are always welcome to stay in church with you.

St, Jude’s services begin with a Prelude; then everyone stands and sings the first hymn while the altar party processes to the front of the church. The words to the hymns can be found in the Hymnal, the larger blue book in the pew rack, the smaller book, the red book, is our Book of Common Prayer, and it contains all the words of our services, our bulletin also contains what you need to follow the service to make it easier if you aren’t familiar with an Episcopal worship service.

There may be a Choir or a smaller group of singers at the service to help lead the songs, and we welcome you to join in, no matter what kind of voice you have, it’s singing from our heart that makes all the difference.

Episcopalians are known for sitting, standing, kneeling, and even some “wandering around” during services. You may follow along or just sit and observe. Basically, we stand to sing, sit to learn, and kneel to pray. Also, you will notice that some of us bow when the cross passes, or genuflect, or cross ourselves at certain times during the service. These are signs of respect and reverence to God and Jesus Christ. These practices vary greatly among our parishioners; you will not stick out if you do not make any of these gestures, as not everyone does.

You will hear Old Testament and New Testament readings, read by a church member who comes forward to the lectern. In between readings there will be a Psalm, usually read together by the entire congregation, and another hymn. For the Gospel reading, the deacon or priest will proceed to the middle of the church. The congregation will turn to face the Gospel book, as a sign of respect, everyone who is able to, should stand during the reading of the Gospel.

Next will be a sermon offered by the priest. Following that, we stand to recite the Nicene Creed, an ancient statement of the basic beliefs shared by most Christian denominations. Join in or read along silently, or just listen. Then we share in the “Prayers of the People” which vary depending on the church season, or if the Prayers have been written by our youth. You may hear people offer up names of folks they are asking prayers for.

As we read aloud our prayer of confession, many people will kneel. You may remain seated or stand if it is more comfortable. Next the priest will proclaim God’s forgiveness of sins, and a heartfelt “May the Peace of the Lord be always with you,” to which we respond, “And also with you!”

Now here is where the “wandering around” part comes in. You may join in or just observe what we call “the Peace,” a time to shake hands with a neighbor, and to greet those with whom you are worshiping, by simply saying to them “Peace”. Some people will leave the pew to exchange the Peace with others.

After the Peace, the service transitions to Holy Communion. This is bread and wine, which Episcopalians believe become the body and blood of our savior Jesus Christ, after they are consecrated or blessed. You will see the priest preparing the altar for communion, assisted by the Acolytes and another person in white robes who serves as a Eucharistic Minister.

During this time an offering will be collected. The Ushers will pass through the church with an offering plate. Folks will put into it cash, checks, or pledge envelopes, some folks use our electronic giving app called Tithe.ly. You may put your filled out visitor card in the plate. Do not feel any pressure to give, but you are welcome to give if you choose and we will appreciate your offering. The Greeter will go down each aisle with the collection plates. When they return to the altar everyone stands and sings a short hymn, the Doxology.

We are now ready for Communion. At St. Jude’s, all are welcome, no matter their denomination, to take Communion. The Ushers will come by the pews, from front to back to invite you to go forward to the altar rail. Most people kneel at the altar rail, but you may stand if you desire. The priest will place a wafer in your open hands. If you have a dietary restriction that requires you to avoid gluten, please tell the priest when she reaches you, and she will give you a gluten-free wafer. You may eat the wafer immediately, or leave it in your hands until the chalice of wine comes to you. The Deacon and Eucharistic Minister will follow the priest and offer you the chalice to drink the wine. You may guide the chalice to your lips and tip it to sip from it, or if you have not yet eaten your wafer, dip it into the wine and consume it, a practice called intinction. If you wish to receive a blessing, instead of Communion, simply cross your arms over your chest. If you do not wish to come to the altar rail for Communion or a blessing, you may stay in your seat; no one will think it strange or judge you.

Once everyone has received Communion, we then say the Post-Communion prayer together, some kneel, some sit, either is okay. Then the priest will invite anyone that would like a blessing for a birthday, anniversary, and thanksgiving/personal prayer request, to raise their hand. The blessings are often followed by applause from folks. We then share our announcements from the bulletin insert. This will give you an idea of what is happening in our parish.

We finish with a final blessing from the deacon, and sing another hymn as the priest and the altar party recess to the back of the church. And a final dismissal from the priest and out the door we go!

If you would like, we welcome you to follow the group, and join us in the parish hall for fellowship with coffee and goodies. We hope to see you soon!

 

Holy Baptism

What is Baptism?

Baptism is a Sacrament: an outward and visible sign of inward and invisible non-material reality. Our Book of Common Prayer states: a sacrament is an outward and visible signs of inward and spiritual grace, given by Christ as sure and certain means by which we receive that grace. Grace is God’s favor toward us, unearned and undeserved; by grace God forgives our sins, enlightens our minds, stirs our hearts, and strengthens our wills.

Baptism: with water has always been the entrance rite of the Christian Church.

Baptism makes us aware that God loves each one of us with a love that is unmerited, unconditional, and never ending.

Baptism is an indissoluble bond between infant/child/adult and God.

Baptism with water is in the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit and provides membership into the Christian Church which is recognized by other traditional churches.

Baptism begins the lifelong process of growth towards Christ and the newly baptized are given the gift of eternal life.

Celebration of Baptism
The parish administers the Sacrament of Holy Baptism throughout the year at the principle services on Sunday. However, four days of the year are particularly appropriate to be baptized and include: the Great Vigil of Easter and Easter morning, All Saints’ Day in the fall, the Feast of the Baptism of the Lord in the winter, and the Feast of Pentecost in the early summer.

Preparation for Baptism
Notify Rector or parish office of the birth of your child or your child’s adoption so that we may share this joyous news with the parish.

Schedule an appointment with the Rector to discuss baptism. The discussion will include talking about the congregation’s process for baptismal preparation, including classes, the selection of godparents, and upcoming baptismal date. Complete and email the parish’s baptismal form  to the Rector or drop off at the parish office.

Confirmation

Confirmation, Reception, and Reaffirmation of Faith

Members of the church who were baptized may choose to affirm their faith as youth or as adults through the rite of confirmation by the bishop.

In addition, those who have been confirmed in other denominations by a bishop in historic succession or in full communion with us may be received into the Episcopal Church by the bishop.

Those who have been baptized and confirmed in the Episcopal Church and wish to recommit themselves to the life of faith may choose to reaffirm their baptismal covenant with the bishop.

Adults who wish to be confirmed, received or to reaffirm their faith should contact the Rector. The parish offers ongoing formation opportunities, focused on understanding the Christian experience and practicing the way of Jesus within the Episcopal tradition.

Holy Matrimony – Marriage

Congratulations! We are delighted that you are considering beginning your marriage at The Church of St. Jude. We look forward to working with you. Many others work behind the scenes to make your wedding dreams a reality, but we will be your primary contacts. We hope this explanation of our roles is useful to you.

Our clergy officiate at weddings at St. Jude’s. There is usually a meeting before the wedding to get to know you both, to discuss your plans for the ceremony, and to oversee your premarital counseling.

Our philosophy: At St. Jude’s, we understand that your wedding is a very personal expression of your faith and love. We will work with you to accommodate as many of your wishes as possible. Our guidance will help you make decisions that:

Respect the sacramental nature of the marriage ceremony,
Conform to the requirements of the Episcopal Church and the State of New York,
Ensure the comfort and safety of your wedding party and guests,
Preserve and protect the church buildings and grounds.

All decisions are made by you, the wedding couple, subject to approval by the priest officiating at your wedding. As you consider each element of your wedding, we will discuss various options with you, including what has worked well for couples in the past. At the first meeting you will be given a handbook that contains a lot of information. We encourage you to review it at your convenience and refer to it throughout your planning.

Wedding service: The Episcopal service is the Celebration and Blessing of a Marriage rite, an Alternative Rite.

Rehearsal
A rehearsal is scheduled the day before the wedding. A couple, the two primary attendants and the rest of the wedding party must be present. A fully attended rehearsal helps create a more relaxed atmosphere the day of the wedding. 

Civil Law
New York marriage law requires a marriage license. You must bring the license on the day of the wedding, and your two witnesses must sign it then and there. Without the license and witnesses, the marriage cannot proceed. Under New York Civil Law, a priest may not perform a marriage without a license, and until such time as that law is changed, we must insist that the license be available. There are severe penalties for any priest who neglects to observe this civil law.

Church Law
Any couple seeking to marry in the church must meet with Mo. Jimmie Sue at least 30 days before the wedding (although 6 months is preferred) and a date must not be chosen until they have met with the priest and secured the priest’s intention to celebrate and bless the marriage. Mo. Jimmie Sue requires premarital counseling sessions prior to the ceremony.

Divorced persons may remarry in the Episcopal Church; however, the permission of the Bishop must be obtained. This procedure takes approximately 30 additional days.

Marriage Equality
The Episcopal Diocese of Long Island is in full support of Marriage Equality and priests may officiate marriages of same-sex couples. St. Jude’s is a “Believe Out Loud” parish. In other words, we believe fully in the inclusion of all of God’s Children. We proudly and gladly officiate marriages of same-sex couples as well as mixed-gender couples.

Contact
For more information about marriage at St. Jude and/or to inquire about getting married at St. Jude, please contact the Parish Office to make an appointment to speak with the Rector.